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Some anger is normal and even healthy. People can express their anger in a variety of unhealthy ways which include yelling, destroying property, creating a scene, outbursts, shutting down emotionally or even anger turned inward.
Anger Management- Controlling Anger before it controls you.We all know what anger is, and we’ve all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage. Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. When it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems. Anger is “ an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage,” according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger. Anger is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline. Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person or event, or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problem. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings. People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive- not aggressive- manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and who to get them met, without hurting others. Being assertive does not mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others. Anger can be suppressed, and the converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn’t allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward- on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blook pressure, or depression. Unexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to passive aggressive behavior, i.e. getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on. People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments hacen’t learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren’t likely to have many successful relationships. As Dr. Spielberger notes, “when none of these three techniques work, that’s when someone- or something- is going to get hurt.” APA article Controlling Anger before it controls you. If you feel you are having problems with anger or angry people in you lives, give us a call. We are here to listen…
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This topic area is for people dealing with anger issues or people in a relationship with someone with anger management issues. Typical problems that can arise from anger include: difficultly staying in long term relationships, feelings of helpless knowing that you or someone you care about may erupt at any time, and problems dealing with issues that arise at work, at school or at home.| < Prev | Next > |
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